The Gifts of Dominance and Submission
When I began my kinky journey, I had preconceived ideas about what “dominance” and “submission” meant. The only dominance I had experienced was the abusive, bullying kind, and relationships in which I...
View ArticleAdvice: Pro Domme & When to bring up BDSM?
Welcome to our latest advice video for MadisonKink.com. Newbie wrote to ask, “How do I find a professional Domme?” Anonymous wrote to ask, “How do you bring up the topic of BDSM when you are in a new...
View ArticleSpanks for the Support
It takes a lot of work to keep MadisonKink running. We do our best to say thank you to all the contributors–and please, take time to go to their sites and support them. There is, however, another...
View ArticleHow Do I Tell My Doctor I’m Kinky? Part 3
[Editor's Note: Part 1 and Part 2] The third and final situation we’ll discuss is when you have a health question related to a specific kink activity. This would likely be a problem focused visit...
View ArticleBeing Safe and Kinky
I’m a newbie to kink, but I’ve had many experiences even before my foray into the kink world that have helped to shape me into the person I am today. Those experiences, and some experiences I’ve had as...
View ArticleRenaming a bdsm gathering: What to say when talking to friends and family.
Ever been in the position where you have to edit yourself while speaking? It can come across as stilted, and obviously embarrassed. You should not be embarrassed about what you like to do, but some...
View ArticleAdvice: How Do I Help My Partner Understand Why I Enjoy Submission?
In this video we answer a question about how to help a partner understand why you enjoy being submissive beyond sex. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins,...
View ArticleAdvice: How Do We Begin Opening Up Our Relationship?
In this video we answer a question about how to begin the process of opening up your relationship. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT...
View ArticleRule of St. Benedict: Counsel
The Rule continues with addressing the issues of consultative way of steering the Community. Chapter 3 is dedicated to the ins and outs of summoning the Community for counsel and giving the household...
View ArticleRevealing Your Non-Vanilla Self: Yes or No?
One of the tricky things about living as a kinkster is how to navigate the vanilla world and its accompanying social mores. I have always been one of those nail-biting “oh, what will they think of me?”...
View ArticleThe Fragile Flowers of Kink
Apparently, kinksters are delicate and fragile flowers of spun glass, easily cracked and shattered at the mere sound of a word. At least, that’s what it seems like. A thread on Fetlife a couple weeks...
View ArticleIn the beginning…
To look at our family, we’d look just like any other blended family. My partner has two kids, ages 3 and 5, and I have two kids, ages 12 and 17. My kids live with us full time, while his are over on...
View ArticleRule of Benedict Continues…
Chapter 4 of the Rule entitled Tools for Good Works showers the reader with Scripture quotes found in the Gospels and Pauline epistles. Those quotes intercepted with Benedict’s own insights fall into...
View ArticleAdvice: Am I a Bad Person If I Want To Spank or Hurt Someone?
In this video we discuss concerns about feeling bad about desires to spank or otherwise hurt someone. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT...
View ArticleAs Picky As I Want to Be
Since birth, I have been one of the universe’s pickiest eaters. There was a point in time as a young child when I really went over the top, and for months, the only thing I would eat was cereal – the...
View ArticleRebutting the Secrecy
Over half a year ago, during a discussion about the post “Hiding in Plain Sight“, someone brought up the following as a reason to keep kink events hidden: There is also, I think, a quite legitimate...
View ArticleHandcuffs
For those of us who are into the stronger, heavier parts of BDSM, including military play, having handcuffs and leg irons in the toy bag is not just for show. We use them to restrain, we use them to...
View ArticleHidden in Plain Sight
As I mentioned previously, I’m a collared slave. I wear my collar 24/7, and have no intention of removing it, except for medical reasons. I talked with my children about the collar ahead of time,...
View ArticleAdvice: Is it Healthy to Enjoy Humiliation During Play?
In this video we discuss a reader’s question about whether or not it is healthy to enjoy humiliation during play. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT...
View ArticleAdvice: What happens when illness impacts a D/s relationship?
In this video we discuss how illness can impact the dynamic of a D/s relationship. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT www.AwenTherapy.com Jasmine St....
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